Support for a young lady suffering from Separation Anxiety

Two week study on young lady who is 12 years old

After attending a recent conference where a presentation was discussing different oils to be used on children with challenging behaviour, anxiety and more I decided that I needed to see the results and feedback first hand to see how these amazing essential oils can not only help children but their families too. I know a young girl and her family who is 12 years old so I approached her mum to see if she would be interested in trying the blend of oils and feeding back to me on if they were helping her daughter. I know the mum well and knew she would be 100% honest with me which is what I really needed and wanted as without the truth, how could I help more children.

Here goes on the feedback, I’m excited to share it with you -

Background - My daughter suffers with Anxiety and is undergoing assessments as it is believed she may have ASD, Separation anxiety from me (Her Mum) and we believe ME (Chronic Fatigue) I have really struggled with her anxiety levels on the build up to sleep and then going to sleep or staying asleep, she’s been on melatonin since September which we have had to purchase privately with the agreement of our doctor as it is not available to be prescribed in our county . This has kind of worked to get her to sleep but it hasn’t helped with the build up in the evening or during the night and as you can imagine it has been very difficult times for everyone within our family. She also struggles some mornings preparing to go to school and in social environments outside of school and finds it challenging to be with her friends for too long or go on sleep overs. She masks her feelings within school although school are aware of the situation.

In early January 2019, I was offered for my daughter to trial a protocol of essential oils (specifically prepared for her and her needs) to see if it helped her in any way. Below I will tell you more about how the two weeks went for her and also us.

Day 1 (Thursday) – I went to pick the oils up from my friend, I was already using some of the essential oils but not these particular ones. On arriving home my daughter was matter of fact about using the oils I had for her, she wasn’t too sure on the one I sprayed on her wrist but was happy to do so which was great as I was keen to give this trial a go as we are tired and exhausted and need something to help us. I have a big file of medical letters and we have tried so many things so I can tell you I was 100% committed to giving this natural option a try.

It’s night one and my daughter heads to bed with her sister in our bed, this is the only way we can get her to sleep (with someone else) however she will still come down stairs on many occasions throughout the evening. Its 9.30pm and I message my friend – “ I don’t want to ruin it but I think she is asleep and she’s not had her melatonin. This is unheard of on a weekday with no melatonin. I felt like sending that message meant I’m tempting fate and she would be down in 5 mins. It was strange for me to have an evening without her keep coming up and down the stairs.

Day 2 - She slept so well last night, she wasn’t up in the night, unlike me who seems to now be in a pattern from being woken up, oh well I can sort myself out when I get her to sleep through the night. Unfortunately she isn’t well today with a sore throat so no school for her today. Normally when she is ill her anxiety increases further but she seems calmer and matter of fact about being ill. The big test for us will be Sunday night as that is the worst night of the week for her anxiety. She is still not sure about the spray on the wrists so it’s agreed to change it to the bottom of her back but in the end she says no she will have it on her wrists.

Day 3 – Saturday – Another good night’s sleep, she’s just not feeling well today with her sore throat.

Day 5 – Monday – Yet again another great nights sleep for my daughter and she slept through until 6 am which for a Sunday night was amazing, so much less stress in our house last night. So she had melatonin on Saturday night but out of the 4 nights has only felt the need for it on one night. She is also feeling much better and the sore throat has gone so let’s hope the extra sleep is helping her. She is certainly calmer than normally and bearing in mind she has also been unwell with the sore throat this normally sets off her anxiety so I’m so far feeling very positive for using the protocol.

Day 6 – Tuesday - She went to bed again last night with no melatonin and just seems calmer again. She had low level anxiety but just shook it off. She asked to go to bed with her sister again and I said no, she went to her own bed, normally her behaviour would change for the worst but it didn’t so this is much better sleep behaviour. I was expecting her to come down stairs 3 or 4 times but no she went to sleep very fast. I will be honest with you that at this point I’m really starting to get excited but I’m scared too, can this really be helping her ? She did wake in the night at 4.30am but went straight back to sleep which is very unusual for her. Tonight she is at my mums as my mum gives me respite by having my daughter and other child overnight once a week for me. I spoke to her and she said her sister was driving her nuts but she wasn’t interested in speaking to me. I had a quick chat with her sibling and said to her to not wind her up. My husband is also seeing the improvements in our daughter and it’s helping our family too which is great. I’m loving the fact that I’m not having to resort to using medication for her and that the natural oils seem to be helping, I hesitate as can’t quite believe it. If this works it will save us as a family as its been very tough, I’m still scared to say much as it seems too good to be true.

Day 7 (Wednesday) – My mum said both girls went to bed fine, she reads a book to them and her phone went in the middle, normally my daughter would make her restart it but she didn’t on this occasion. Funny incident at school as one of the teachers brings her dog in and it wouldn’t stop smelling my daughter’s wrists. She was really bright after school today and said ‘she feels good like she used too’, however still feeling coldy and a bit moany but that’s normal for anyone feeling unwell. I have also noticed her voice has changed and she is much calmer.

Day 8 (Thursday) – Another great night, no melatonin and she came in at 6am. However things changed and she was more challenging saying her throat hurt so much, She was a challenge getting into school but no screaming, crying or too much repeating of herself which is what we normally get when she feels ill. So I would say normally on a day like today I wouldn’t have got her to school but I did. Well this is where it gets exciting, I have just seen the family outreach worker and she said that my daughter was happier, brighter and more chatty and did not need to be led to talk. She had good eye contact and her puff eyes had gone down. She has been working with my daughter since June 2018.

Day 9 (Friday) – She had a bad evening not about going to sleep but moaning she felt unwell however she woke at 11.30pm and then went back to bed then slept through and was up happy this morning.

Day 10 (Saturday) She woke up feeling happy, she did wake me at 3.30am with growing pains in her legs but went straight back to bed. She had a good day and we socialised with friends in to the evening. She normally won’t stay with her friends playing for long but she did and her friend even said that she seems happier and not moaning about feeling ill all the time.

Day 11 (Sunday) Last night was a later bedtime as we went out, she wanted to sleep with me when we got home but I said no and sat with her for a few minutes in her room, she then came back to my room but I took her back to hers and she soon settled and slept through the night. I feel it was the change of routine being out that upset her sleeping pattern. However this was nothing like we would have gone through before using this protocol. She wasn’t feeling well today but she said it was a bug feeling not her weird ill feeling she gets. However its been much better than it can be on a Sunday and she has gone to bed fine.

Day 12 (Monday) –

She was slightly unsettled this evening and came down about 10pm but went back to bed. We have decided the spray bottle is getting lower on oils and doesn’t seem to be spraying the oil as well so we have given it a good shake as we certainly notice the difference if she doesn’t get the oils on to her skin.

Day 13 (Tuesday) –

Back to settling well at bedtime and sleeping fast, we are sure the bottle not spraying properly was having an impact and this seems to show that our thoughts were correct.

Day 14 (Wednesday)

Today we have been looking into chronic fatigue more and wondering if this is why she is constantly feeling ill. We are looking at the best oils to use to help support her. (More details to follow on another blog)

So to conclude how amazing this protocol has been for us over the two weeks -

She would come out of school moaning n complaining she doesn’t feel well – Yes she still hasn’t been well but has genuinely had a sore throat and cold. She does have chronic fatigue which means she picks up so much and quickly. It’s not been the same as it was before with just moaning about feeling strange. She does still moan a lot about feeling ill and this is something we are looking at next with the oils but she is so much calmer than she was before.

She count down hours until bed – Not happened and even said oh its only 6.30pm, long time to bed yet J She does still get fidgety but this is so much easier to control than before she was using these particular oils.

She’d not want to do much she’d not want to see friends or go out often – She is socialising with friends more and they have even noticed a difference in her. She does worry still if she feels unwell while being with her friends.

She’d continue to count down to bed time closer it got she’d start fidgeting rubbing her arms taking her hair out and putting it up again, she’d moan a lot she’d breath fast etc - Not happened at all

She’d take at least two times to get her up to bed but this would often end in her staying up later downstairs or sleeping with me – The first night she went to bed with her sister but since then has gone to sleep in her own bed. She has only used Melatonin once in the two week trial.

She would often wake in night but would not go back to bed- If she has woken she has gone straight back to bed and seems much calmer. When she sleeps at my mums now she sleeps fine, there has been times when I get 40 texts in one night from her saying she wants me and doesn’t feel well. I sometimes have to speak to her three times from school pick up to bedtime when she is with my mum but she’s not been as bothered so hardly any texts or phone calls and its not been as intense

Well what can we say, amazing feedback from a young girl and her mum using the protocol of essential oils. Just goes to show that's its worth giving something a try as this has changed the life's of this young lady and her family, long may it continue. Mum has already said her daughter will be continuing on the oils as she doesn't want to go back to the daily struggles they were all facing. To find out more contact Nicky on 07970 859993 or email info@go2nature.co.uk